Monday, May 3, 2010
Now let’s be clear. Change and transition are two different things. I love change – the excitement, the possibilities, the potential, the newness. Changes are driven to reach a goal. Transitions, however, start with letting go of what no longer fits or is adequate to your life stage. When my first girlfriend dumped me she was saying that we no longer fit together. Guess what? I hated that too.
Focusing on the past prohibits you from moving forward. You have to let go of something internal because it is the inner ending which initiates the transition. The hardest part for me is embracing the ending to move forward. I don’t like moving on, but also don’t want to be a depressing curmudgeon who continuously spouts, “Well it was better before because…” I fully recognize that in order to truly transition I must be willing to accept the ending and MOVE FORWARD.
Recognize your tendencies and manage them in order to propel yourself forward. What are you still hanging on to?